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WHAT YOUR DONATION WILL FUND:
To properly promote a single to radio, the cost is about $4,500. Your donation will go directly to a radio promoter, so that the song “Harm Nobody Else” can be promoted to terrestrial radio. Hiring a radio promoter is one of the steps that springs artists into the next level of their careers, gaining them notoriety in every market where the single is played. This enables the artist to be booked at bigger venues, and be more well-known overall. Investment in radio promotion is a huge marketing step for artists. It’s needed to reach the next level of success. Typically, artists are sponsored for radio promotion, which in turn brings exposure to both the artist and the sponsor(s). I am open to sponsorship for this project as well, if you feel that’s a better fit for your business than making a donation. If you would like to talk about sponsorship, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
ABOUT THE “HARM NOBODY ELSE” PROJECT:
This project didn’t start as any sort of public quest that was planned in advance. I actually meant to quietly use the outlets of music and blog writing to help myself find closure. In July of 2018, I wrote the song “Harm Nobody Else”. Then, it sat forgotten on a piece of paper and a voice note until September of that same year when I performed it at the Mississippi Songwriter’s Festival for the very first time. I performed the song with the explanation that it was to promote awareness of domestic violence since the following month was “National Domestic Violence Awareness Month”. I didn’t explain that I had any personal connection to the song, and certainly didn’t say the song was written in my own voice. I only told my friend Abe Partridge, because I was borrowing his guitar when a baby step in my healing process took place. My adopted mother who abused me for 13 years of my life before divorcing my biological father was in the audience when I sang “Harm Nobody Else” for the first time during the festival. I couldn’t look at her when I told that watered down explanation of the song’s meaning, but I finally got the courage to look into her eyes as I actually sang the song. It was terrifying. That same month, I started writing blog posts, and created a series of chapters that told the story of my childhood through characters whose names had been changed. The blog was called “The Insignificant Diary of a Burden Named Phoenix”. I wrote 15 chapters, and made it to the age of eleven in my story. Then, I left the blog to sit for over a year. In November of 2019, I decided to take the blog a step further by turning it into a podcast. So, I launched “The Insignificant Diary of a Burden Named Phoenix” Podcast. I recorded two episodes in which I read chapters 1-3 from the blog. I didn’t reveal that this was my story, and no one would’ve known since I had hidden it so well throughout my life. Then, my abuser cut me out of her life out of the blue after seemingly trying to make amends for 12 years of my adult life. I was so hurt and angry that I wanted to shout the secret that I had withheld almost my entire life as loud and as soon as possible. So, I did. I posted it on social media. I revealed that the story I was telling in my podcast was my own. Then, I said what the song, “Harm Nobody Else” is actually about on stage before performing it. My friend, Taylor Long, who had consoled me on the day I first released my story two weeks prior, was beside me on stage that night. Prior to accepting my truth as part of me, I thought that singing a redemption song aimed at my abuser and putting my story into words with a blog would be enough. It wasn’t. I was still hiding the truth from myself, and everyone else by detaching myself from my own experience. It wasn’t until recently that I realized I was hiding the full truth because I felt ashamed. I wasn’t helping anyone else or even myself by owning my abuser’s secret. All I was doing was settling for the non-truth that victims and survivors should be ashamed. It’s ironic that the chorus of “Harm Nobody Else” begins with the lyrics; “I’m done”. When I wrote that line on July 11, 2018; I wasn’t done. I was still hiding her secret. On November 27, 2019; I was DONE. This is not MY secret. This is not MY shame. The secret and shame belong to the woman who forced me to legally become her child by making it clear to me that if I prevented her from doing so by telling the truth to the court, I’d regret it. I am documenting my healing process in sequence, so that others may feel empowered to do the same.
If you have a similar background, please hear this... You didn’t ask for the cards you were dealt. It’s time to pass them back to the dealer. Your abuser will more than likely never accept the blame, but that does not mean that you have to hold onto it. The blame is not YOURS. The shame is not YOURS. THIS IS NOT YOUR SECRET.
***To see a timeline of this entire journey, please click here: https://ameliapresleymusic.com/harm-nobody-else#about-the-project